Systems Advocacy: Creating Safe, Respectful & Effective Responses Part 3


  “I was so tired I could hardly think. Petrified about going to court.  The prosecutor was an angel. Kind, patient. He actually said he was sorry I got beaten up, I didn’t deserve it – no matter what. Then he said he would do the prosecution without me if I wanted. The cops did a great job investigating, documenting, and the doctor did a detailed report, so it was possible for him to go ahead without me!” “I was a new advocate in a new domestic violence program on a reservation of about 5,500 people. Went to the police station [...]

Systems Advocacy: Creating Safe, Respectful & Effective Responses Part 32022-02-15T15:11:46+00:00

Systems Advocacy: Creating Safe, Respectful & Effective Responses Part 2


  “It was about six months after my children and I finally got a house in tribal housing. I was struggling to get to work, take care of the kids and keep the car working. I needed my ex to watch the children a couple days a week so I could work. I trusted him to take good care of them for that amount of time. One day I drove to town, about 18 miles away, to get my paperwork up-dated for food stamps. I handed my papers to the worker. She gave me a mean look, grabbing the papers from [...]

Systems Advocacy: Creating Safe, Respectful & Effective Responses Part 22022-02-15T15:10:48+00:00

Systems Advocacy: Creating Safe, Respectful & Effective Responses


  “I spent 4 days in jail for an unpaid traffic ticket. My boyfriend beat me up and I called the cops. He was gone by the time they got to my house. But they ran my name and arrested me…” “It was such a struggle - I needed to get a protection order against my husband. Took time off from work, got a ride from a friend…embarrassing, depressing. I wanted me and my kids to be safe, sleep good at night... I asked the clerk of courts for the protection order form. The clerk looked exasperated, didn’t even say hello. [...]

Systems Advocacy: Creating Safe, Respectful & Effective Responses2022-02-15T15:08:19+00:00

COVID19: Coping with Anxiety


  As we continue journeying through the uncharted waters of the coronavirus pandemic, there are likely many “shoulds” and “coulds” that come into our minds in any given moment. All too often, those “shoulds” encourage us to reach outside of ourselves and find solutions to ease the discomfort. Like many things, reaching outside of ourselves is not our natural response, but rather a learned, conditioned response. We have been conditioned to do this. We have been conditioned to believe that if something feels wrong, there is something out there that will fix it. So we reach. We reach for the thing [...]

COVID19: Coping with Anxiety2022-02-15T15:04:34+00:00

Domestic Violence: Collusion & Coercion


"Robert and I have known each other since grade school; we've been together for about four years and have two children - Amy is 2 years old and Jason is 3 months. We’ve had arguments and fights and separated a couple of times. Robert’s family has interfered from time to time, always taking his side. He’s hit me and pushed me and caused me to fall and break an arm. His family said I deserved it; I should have left him alone and stopped b___ing at him all the time. I’ve had two Orders of Protection against him, but I’ve dropped [...]

Domestic Violence: Collusion & Coercion2021-12-07T15:17:52+00:00



Imagine this: “I’ve just been assaulted by my husband, the police are called, they get him out of the house, and a few days later his sister and his female cousins stop by and harass me for calling the police on him.  A week later, I see them at the community center, they give me some mean and dirty looks; I run into them at the store and they intentionally bump into me and call me names. They tell me to watch my back.  What can I do?” Violence by extended family is a widespread issue faced by battered Indian women. [...]

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